The reality principle puts desire in a double-bind; in the disintegration of this principle lies the release of desire from the law that binds it. The reality principle binds desire by polarizing it. The reality principle asserts that all that exists is reality, that if the body of desire is to exist it must submit to the law of reality. Reality is a law, a concept, the effect of which is to confine the body of desire within the constraints of bi-polarity, or, bi-sexuality.

The source of the reality principle is the body of desire itself; desire constructs its own prison and then deconstructs it. The law is not eternal, it comes and goes while desire flows. It is in the midst of the disintegration of myself that the limits of reality can be seen. My real life is a contruction project that ends when the project falls down flat, or, goes up in smoke.

The person is a social project; built up as a community of persons, persons who are parts of one common whole person. A person is a real structure, constructed according to the law. At the nucleus of the community of persons is the human family; the bi-sexual parent and the bi-sexual child. In reality the minimum number of persons it takes to make a person is four: mother, father, daughter, son. These four persons exist only in the bi-polarity of their relationship to each other, each part of the family depends upon the others playing their parts, maintaining those ties that bind us together.

The posture of myembodiedself toward the "outside" world that I inhabit is at once aggressive and defensive. The objects of my desire are located out there as well as the objects of my fear. I must grasp what I want and throw out what I don't want. The idea is grow through the eating of food while preventing the food from eating me; technology is the form of eating and defending against being eaten. To eat or be eaten, that is the question. But is there any question?

"Identification, introjection, incorporation, is eating. The oldest and truest language is that of the mouth: the oral basis of the ego. Even in seeing there is an active process of introjection: perception is a partaking of what is perceived (Fenichel); we become what we behold (Blake)." Loves's Body. 165.

It is the process of consumption that consumes us; in the process of eating we become food. It is only in the realization of our desire that our fear is realized. The boundary between myembodiedself and the "outside" world is the source of my ambivalent posture.